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Apr 16, 2014

Need a desk to work on?

I read this in an article that in your mid-twenty you begin to crave for a desk to work. The whole idea of work gets attached to having a desk.

And suddenly I realised it is true in my case. I need a desk to write, to read often.

The idea is not to have a desk and work, the idea is that all too quickly mid-twenty becomes about symbolism. A flashy new dress for a wedding means a lovely celebration, a swanky car is status and yes those foreign trips mean you are doing all too well.

And then you ask why has your life become complicated?

I will share with you my personal experience. When I got married we didn't have a car. And of course the need for it was highlighted very soon. Back then we were starting from scratch, all our money had been duly put back into a parental home or sibling's education.

Despite the budget not allowing, I insisted we buy a sedan and husband in an attempt to make me happy agreed. Not that we got broke or bankrupt. Soon enough we managed our expenses and things got back on track.

Last month due to work we decided to move to Pune. Due to some government taxes, we had to sell off our car. Of course we had to buy another one. When the time came for us to decide the car, I chose the smallest possible. No not Nano, but another one.

My husband got surprised and I told him that in the past two years we have never really quite made any use of our sedan. It has been a sitting duck with its extra space. Now instead of again starting a loan, let us buy a car we can afford comfortably with no extra finance help.

I learnt it late. If I had understood that symbolism is more or less empty I could have saved a good fifty thousand rupees that went as loan interest.

Being in your mid twenties suddenly everything begins to be about what shows, internally our locus of control becomes centered around objects.

Do you believe it too? Is symbolism a part of yours or someone else's life? How do you handle it?

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  1. I need a desk too.. Realized these symbolisms many a times

    GS at Moontime Tunes

  2. nice one ! Well about symbolisms I have truly never cared much about it !
    But rarely it does get on to me, but I can get rid of it in few minutes. I have always been stingy when it comes to spending money more of a saver !

  3. at this point of our marriage, we are "purging" our house of all the things we once thought we wanted and/or needed. It has been therapeutic. But, oh, I remember the 20s. Symbolism indeed.

    Over here from the A to Z.

  4. I spent my 20s and 30s sitting at a desk in an office all day, Monday-Friday. Now I work as a writer full-time and I spend most of my day reclined on the sofa, typing away on my laptop. I think we always want what we don't have! I'm craving one of those treadmill desks for part of the day--writing and getting exercise at the same time. Not sure I have the coordination for it, though.

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    Stephanie Faris, author
    30 Days of No Gossip

  5. never cared much about symbolism! infact i detested it! when i joined engg, i wanted a scooty. but dad was all for car! i actually made him change his mind as takin car to college wud b jst show off while scooty wud b simple :-)
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  6. I dont go in for the symbols, and am generally a saver than a spender :) But yes, I have seen people getting more attached to symbols that define life rather than life itself :)

  7. I need a desk too..Though I don't have one at home I want to buy one just for my writing and reading... And as far as symbolisms are concerned, I have never really bothered about that..Or if I have then I'm yet to realize that consciously...I've been boring since times immemorial Richa!

    N for Nauseated-Random Thoughts Naba

  8. Thankfully no, I take from my Dad the beauty is simplicity and not in symbolism. Found a husband too with similar views :) But nearing 30s I do want my own home, our own little space! (You know what I mean na ;))

  9. I think I am not bothered about symbols as such.. About a house, I keep flipping ..As of now I do not have any fixed wishes about owning one.. lets see how far I go..

  10. Yep, I am with Sreeja. I am more a saver than a spender. The husband , on the other hand.. never mind. Yes, there are men who splurge :D Good that you decided on the wisdom of a smaller car, Richa. More power to you!

  11. Totally agree with your reasoning & choice :)

  12. ha!
    I've been running through the advantages of buying a desk for a long time now, though as a writer I've managed without one for years... But damn wouldn't it make things easier...

  13. Balance, balance, everything else here too this works. Splurge on things that will last, forget the unnecessary. Buy quality, even if it means doing with less. That's what I have learnt. And I am definitely not into expensive foreign trips that has become such a symbol of doing well. A good post, Richa! You did very well with the car decision :)

  14. What mid-twenties? I still want a desk and whine every time I use the dining table or the floor or the sofa or wherever I flop down to work. (I did read the rest of the post, Richa, but my mind is still stuck on the desk. Yes I do need a desk of my own.)